The day after we got officially engaged, we had a huge fight. I didn't want an engagement ceremony in the first place. But he insisted. His family insisted. To be honest, I could have said no, but I thought that probably the engagement would be good for our relationship. Prepare us for marriage.
Oh what kind of nonsense did I talk myself into?
It was not really a fight. More like a cold war. We had never fought before. All the years that I knew him we argued consistently, but never fought. That morning, I just had to scream my head off when her sister sent me an sms that said "Venue confirmed. Shang". Confirmed? We had not decided on a date yet for the wedding. How do you book a venue without a date?
I called him and... ok, I admit I over-reacted... I shouted. Actually scolded him for a full 3 minutes (it felt like 3 minutes, could have been longer...). This guy waited until I stop for breath and said that his sister meant venue for dinner with his family before his sister, the husband and kids return to UK.
Oh? Oh? Suddenly I vaguely remembered that he mentioned that they want to have a small family dinner with me before the sister and her family return to UK so that they can get to know me better.
"Why are so angry Els. Why would I book a venue for the wedding without discussing it with you? Why are you so upset about the wedding?"
"NOT upset about the wedding!!! I thought you BOOKED a venue already"
"Why would I set the date before telling you? I am marrying you, right? Is there anything else that you want to talk about? You not happy with this wedding plan? You did seem odd yesterday. You were snappy, you looked glum."
"I DIDN'T look glum! I was happy! My lips ache from smiling. I AM HAPPY!", believe it or not, I hung up! I hung up!
Almost immediately I regretted that action. I shouldn't have. This man was nice to me even when I know he was gritting his teeth in frustration. I waited for him to call me. He didn't. For 3 whole days. And we just got engaged!
The fourth day, right after my Subuh prayer, I called him. He picked up at the first ring.
"Oh that was fast", I was cursing myself even as I heard myself. That was not good!
"Yeah, I didn't want to give you any chance to change your mind"
"Heyy"
"Hmm"
"I am sorry. Did I miss the dinner?"
"Hmm. They left 2 days ago"
Silence.
"Listen. She is coming back for the wedding, so don't worry about it... There will be a wedding right?" For the first time, I heard the uncertainty in his voice.
"I am really sorry. I shouldn't have gone ballastic like that. Your sister was so nice to me and I really wanted to get to know her better. But I thought since we... well, I thought since you didn't call..."
"Els. There will be a wedding, right?"
"There will be. If you still want me"
"Ever since I first laid eyes on you"
I laughed. No, he was seeing someone else back then.
"Els, she was just a friend. We were not seeing each other. I fell in love with you right there, at the lobby of your office, watching you snapping at that vendor guy." Love? Did he finally said love?
"What? I met you for the first time when you came for the meeting. I didn't see you at the lobby!"
"I did"
Somehow, knowing that he saw me before I saw him. That he already set to have me even before I wanted to get so near to him, that he was already in love with me before I got the chance to avoid him, was all I needed.
"We gotta move the wedding date Els. Lets get married as soon as we can" Ok, that was scary, his voice sounded worry and uncertain.
"I will speak to my parents"
"Ok... Thanks"
"You never said the words before today" That I didn't plan to say.
"Hmm"
"You love me"
"Very much"
"Thanks"
"Hmm"
Silence. Again.
"Listen, I gotta go. We will talk again?" I wanted to say no, don't go. Stay on the line.
"Ok. Next month"
"We will talk again next month? You kidding me?" I laughed.
"No, we will get married next month. Exactly one month from now. I will speak to my parents. Book the venue, I don't care where. I just want to be married to you"
And I did. Two weeks later. What can I say?
Oh what kind of nonsense did I talk myself into?
It was not really a fight. More like a cold war. We had never fought before. All the years that I knew him we argued consistently, but never fought. That morning, I just had to scream my head off when her sister sent me an sms that said "Venue confirmed. Shang". Confirmed? We had not decided on a date yet for the wedding. How do you book a venue without a date?
I called him and... ok, I admit I over-reacted... I shouted. Actually scolded him for a full 3 minutes (it felt like 3 minutes, could have been longer...). This guy waited until I stop for breath and said that his sister meant venue for dinner with his family before his sister, the husband and kids return to UK.
Oh? Oh? Suddenly I vaguely remembered that he mentioned that they want to have a small family dinner with me before the sister and her family return to UK so that they can get to know me better.
"Why are so angry Els. Why would I book a venue for the wedding without discussing it with you? Why are you so upset about the wedding?"
"NOT upset about the wedding!!! I thought you BOOKED a venue already"
"Why would I set the date before telling you? I am marrying you, right? Is there anything else that you want to talk about? You not happy with this wedding plan? You did seem odd yesterday. You were snappy, you looked glum."
"I DIDN'T look glum! I was happy! My lips ache from smiling. I AM HAPPY!", believe it or not, I hung up! I hung up!
Almost immediately I regretted that action. I shouldn't have. This man was nice to me even when I know he was gritting his teeth in frustration. I waited for him to call me. He didn't. For 3 whole days. And we just got engaged!
The fourth day, right after my Subuh prayer, I called him. He picked up at the first ring.
"Oh that was fast", I was cursing myself even as I heard myself. That was not good!
"Yeah, I didn't want to give you any chance to change your mind"
"Heyy"
"Hmm"
"I am sorry. Did I miss the dinner?"
"Hmm. They left 2 days ago"
Silence.
"Listen. She is coming back for the wedding, so don't worry about it... There will be a wedding right?" For the first time, I heard the uncertainty in his voice.
"I am really sorry. I shouldn't have gone ballastic like that. Your sister was so nice to me and I really wanted to get to know her better. But I thought since we... well, I thought since you didn't call..."
"Els. There will be a wedding, right?"
"There will be. If you still want me"
"Ever since I first laid eyes on you"
I laughed. No, he was seeing someone else back then.
"Els, she was just a friend. We were not seeing each other. I fell in love with you right there, at the lobby of your office, watching you snapping at that vendor guy." Love? Did he finally said love?
"What? I met you for the first time when you came for the meeting. I didn't see you at the lobby!"
"I did"
Somehow, knowing that he saw me before I saw him. That he already set to have me even before I wanted to get so near to him, that he was already in love with me before I got the chance to avoid him, was all I needed.
"We gotta move the wedding date Els. Lets get married as soon as we can" Ok, that was scary, his voice sounded worry and uncertain.
"I will speak to my parents"
"Ok... Thanks"
"You never said the words before today" That I didn't plan to say.
"Hmm"
"You love me"
"Very much"
"Thanks"
"Hmm"
Silence. Again.
"Listen, I gotta go. We will talk again?" I wanted to say no, don't go. Stay on the line.
"Ok. Next month"
"We will talk again next month? You kidding me?" I laughed.
"No, we will get married next month. Exactly one month from now. I will speak to my parents. Book the venue, I don't care where. I just want to be married to you"
And I did. Two weeks later. What can I say?
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